“Hey – it’s February Cat!” I hear you saying. “Aren’t we way past the ‘new year, new you’ platitudes?”
Well yes ….and no! If you have received my emails for a while or been a regular blog reader, you will have noticed that I have been quiet for a few months. Yes, I’ve been turning up on facebook with my game face on, but those who really know me know that there have been many other things going on under the surface. In fact, here’s a good tip to remember: when an introvert goes quiet, you can be guaranteed that they are mulling over something of great significance to them. Hence, it has taken me a number of months to digest my experiences, think them through and extract the pearls to take forward and share.
The last few months of 2018 were a whirlwind of travel for me with one trip in particular stretching me emotionally on so many levels. This was the trip I made to LA in October to support the gorgeously fierce Catherine at FierceCon where I was honoured to be one of the panelists.
Other than feeling like I could never get it quite “right” in regards to dress code, (we Aussies and Kiwis are waaaay more casual than our US sisters – just saying!) I found myself often in tears as I struggled with my own old insecurities while surrounded by vibrant, confident women. I’m sure that some of them were wrestling with the some of the same demons as myself – you know the ones – self doubt, feeling like you don’t belong and that you really don’t make the grade – however they all seemed so at ease, so poised and so frigging shiny! Seriously, these women just glowed!
Thankfully, my introverted need for a few solid connections to hang onto whilst navigating a crowd was met via a few incredible women that I really bonded with. One in particular felt like a long lost soul mate, (hope I didn’t smother you too much Theresa!) and I left the conference feeling so full of conflicting emotions: drained yet replete, exhausted yet exhilarated.
So what were the stand out takeaways from all of this?
I expected to return home from the US brimming with excitement, new ideas and energy ready to rock into the new year with workshops and coaching offerings launching in November and December.
Instead, I returned home so inspired by the people I had connected with, but unable to to process exactly how I felt.
I felt adrift.
I felt unclear about why I was doing what I was doing and then wanted to beat myself up even more, because I’m a coach! I should have my act together – right?
I eventually reached out to two of my own coaches, (yes, a coach who has their own coach. It’s called walking the talk!) who were so kind and supportive of me. They then asked me one key question that I wasn’t allowed to answer right away, but had to take a few weeks to think over – with NO input from others!
That question is that same one that I am asking you now: what are the 3 words that best express how you would love to live your life?
It took me a while to settle on my 3 words – but once I did, it felt like the mist had cleared. I could picture the possibilities for 2019 of how I could better pour into the women I serve in my coaching and my wellness business as well as my online communities.
So is 2019 YOUR year of possibility or are you still in that place where I was of feeling lost, unclear and lacking confidence in yourself?
The beauty of life is that we don’t have to have it all figured out – especially by 12.01 am on January 1st! Rather, we have the ability to pause, redefine, reinvent and launch ourselves into our “new year” on any date.
Why not take some time out over the next week to determine your 3 life defining words? They may spring straight to mind or they may not reveal themselves for a few days. Either way, give yourself time to mull over them and see how they sit. If you find that you are still stuck however, consider reaching out and booking a complimentary call with me to see how coaching would help you. I can say hand on heart that the most productive times in my life came about when I worked with a coach. ( Please note: while I’m taking on new one on one clients at the moment, these spots do fill quickly.)
Here’s to an incredible 2019 full of possibility, opportunity and purpose! Be it in your business, your finances, your creativity, your family or your health – I’m believing for incredible growth for you – now you believe for it too!
PS. What were my 3 words?
Write. Speak. Serve